17 Dec

Successful Relationships are Formed Online

The number of single people using online dating sites, such as Match.com, has grown rapidly over the last ten years.  As more and more people claim to have met the love of their life online, others looking for love are tempted to take the same path, especially as there is no longer the stigma attached to online dating there perhaps once was.  Some recent research has found that the relationships formed as a result of meeting through internet dating sites are just as successful – and can be expected to last just as long – as partnerships that were initiated under more conventional circumstances.

For today’s professionals, who are often short of time due to their hectic work schedules, online dating is an ideal way to meet potential long-term partners.  From the comfort and relative security of their computers or smart phones, single people are able peruse possible love-matches, making dating easy and stress-free, as well as being able to take advantage of the other services online dating sites offer such as dating advice columns and dating blogs.  Many people feel that they would rather learn what they can about a potential date by communicating online with the other person before they meet face to face.  In this way unsuitable candidates can be discounted without time being wasted in brick and mortar venues, or feelings being hurt.

The compatibility tests that most top quality online dating sites use to help them match members with one another are getting more and more accurate at predicting which people will get on well together; this means that there has never been a better time to meet “the one” through an online dating site.

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12 Dec

Who Pays?

So, you have met someone on the Gay Parship site and are taking their first leap into the gay dating pool, but it can be confusing. Without the traditional male and female roles to fall back on, determining details such as who choose the restaurant, who pays, or who makes the first move can be hard to navigate. The most important advice first-time dating lesbians or gay men can follow is to do what comes naturally. If one’s natural inclinations still seem a little unclear, following these simple suggestions may take some of the uneasiness out of the first gay or lesbian date.

•    Who pays? Even in heterosexual situations, the rule is that whoever asks for the date should be prepared to pay for the date. However, the person who was asked on the date should not come empty handed. In many situations, gay or lesbian singles prefer to go Dutch on the first date, regardless of who asked whom. If a person refuses to let the other pay for anything, it is polite not to force the issue. 
•    Opening doors and pulling out chairs.  This is where things may get murky. If you feel the urge to be chivalrous, then do so and pay attention to how the other person reacts. If the other person seems uncomfortable or put off by this, then follow their lead. 
•    Be authentic. Doing what comes naturally and reading the other person’s reactions is a good way to tell whether two people are compatible. If you finds that your natural responses to things such as paying for the date and basic etiquette are off-putting to the other person, then maybe this is not a good match.

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9 Dec

Writing a Perfect Profile

When it comes to writing an online dating profile, almost every dating advice blog says the same thing; write an honest profile, and just be yourself.  If you are not a particularly good writer, this may seem like a daunting prospect.  Here is a formula that you can use to create an original profile that really expresses who you are.

The profile should be three paragraphs, and each paragraph should have three to five sentences.  The first paragraph should start with a quotation that you particularly like; the quote can be from a song or a poem, or can be something someone said.  Spend the rest of the paragraph explaining why the quotation is important to you, and how it has influenced your life. 

The second paragraph should start with your fondest childhood memory, and the following few sentences should explain what you learned from it and what it has brought to your adult life.  Remember that this should be a positive memory, and should be something that has impacted the course of your life, your goals, and who you have grown up to be. 

The last paragraph should discuss a film you have recently seen, a book you have just finished reading, or a song that you have heard for the first time that particularly moves you.  You should then explain why you liked it and how that reflects on who you are. 

The above is a simple formula, and can certainly be tailored to fit your own writing style and personality.  The important thing is to make certain that you end up with a profile that is original, personal, and introduces the reader to who you really are.

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3 Dec

Going Beyond Your Comfort Zone

Getting back into the game with online dating can be tough on you emotionally.  There may be several thoughts running through your head on how to present yourself, how to approach somebody, how to take things forward and of course, how to handle rejection.  Through it all, dating sites such as Parship can help you find just the kind of person that you are looking for.  Most individuals, who get back to dating, prefer to stick to their own country.  However, there are quite a few others who do not mind crossing those virtual borders.

If you do find someone from a different country that you get along with well, there is no harm in taking things forward.  To help you on, make sure that your means of communication are open and clear.  Language can be a barrier at times and conversations can be misconstrued.  Give way to each other to open up.  Delve a bit into the social norms and codes of conduct in the country of the person with whom you are corresponding.  This will prevent you from saying or doing something offensive out of ignorance. 

When things do get serious in a relationship, stop and think hard before you actually pack your bags and book a flight.  You should understand all that is involved in making such a move.  Many a love story does end in the idyllic ride into the sunset or like a picture perfect dream.  All of them first require that you evaluate the person carefully and decide on your level of comfort with perhaps moving to a new country.

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29 Nov

Keep Things Interesting

The first couple of months in a gay relationship are exciting. The sparks are flying, the sex is frequent, and things are hot and heavy. As things progress and the two people get to know each other more intimately and the groundwork for real lasting love is laid, things begin to calm down. However, this more sedate pace can lead to boredom and eventually neglect and infidelity. Keeping the spark alive is essential, but it does take some work. However, who says that work has to be unpleasant? Romance and the element of surprise keep the chemistry alive and can ultimately keep two people in a happy, healthy relationship, even after the novelty fades.

Continuing to date your partner can help keep the passion alive. It can be easy to get comfortable and get into a rut. Planning a fun outing, such as a concert, scuba diving or dancing, can be interesting and keep the relationship fun. It will also give the couple some common experiences to reflect on in the future. It is also important to pay attention to each other. This means listening when the other is speaking and remembering each other’s likes and dislikes. Male or female, gay or straight, a good listener is always attractive.

A relationship needs care and attention, do don’t forget to show your loved one the affection that they deserve. Those who continue to nurture their relationships are ultimately rewarded with lasting love. 

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24 Nov

Finding Mr or Ms Right

The gay online dating site such as Gay Parship or Gaycupid.com has been selected, your profile has been created, and the checklist of traits most desired in a gay or lesbian partner has been made. The only thing left to do is to sit back and wait for Mr or Ms Right… or is it? Finding love online is not a task for the lazy. Like anything else worth having, finding love takes work. Whether one is cruising the local cafes and pubs or joining an online dating community, one must put in some considerable time and energy to find the perfect gay mate.

Simply scanning profiles of prospective mates for key words or even worse, just looking at the picture on the profile page, may weed out someone really special. One’s mental checklist of desirable traits is important, but it is also important to remember that no one is going to possess every single one of those desirable traits. What one might think is desirable on paper might not be so wonderful in an actual relationship. Although physical attraction is important to any relationship, it is also important to consider the fact that not everyone looks good in pictures. Someone whose profile picture is lacklustre may be extremely attractive in person, especially once one gets to know the person behind the face.

By scanning for keywords or looking at photos, one is likely to miss a sparkling wit or a twinkle in the eye. Don’t miss out on something special.

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21 Nov

To Call or not to Call

When it comes to gay and lesbian dating, knowing when and when not to call can make or break a new relationship. At no other point is this truer than during that crucial period from the week leading up to the first date to the week following the first date. Following proper protocol can be difficult when emotions and nerves are running high and judgement is at its most impaired. Where things get interesting in the case of lesbian or gay dating is the fact that normal gender specific calling rules do not apply. It is not always fair to assume that the person who planned the first date should take the lead in pursuing the relationship. 

It is perfectly acceptable, and indeed encouraged, for the person who was originally asked out on the date to call, text, or email their date and thank them for a lovely time. So, in this case, it is expected that the person invited on the date would make the next move. While texting and emailing can be quick and convenient forms of communication, anyone who desires a second date should definitely take the time to make a phone call. This will give the caller the opportunity to hear the tone of their date’s voice and have an actual conversation. 

On another note, once the first post-date call has been made, it is prudent to wait until getting a call back before calling, texting or emailing again. Calling multiple times before receiving a call back gives the impression of desperation and may scare off a possible love interest.

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15 Nov

Dating – It’s All About Confidence

Those who are new to dating, and even those who have been dating for a while, often wonder why their dates don’t go as well as they hoped. The key to successful dating is confidence. Just by improving confidence levels by a small amount, it is possible to have fantastic dates, again and again.

A great way to increase confidence is to change basic aspects of your looks, lifestyle and fitness regime to increase self-esteem. Make a list of the things that you are not happy with in your life. A new hairstyle, diet, style and clothing can all help you to feel more confident in yourself. Ensure that any changes you make are realistic, so that you can keep them up. Set yourself goals and try to stick to them. Once you start to feel better about yourself, others will notice. A confident person is an attractive one.

Learning to be happy with yourself and your life is a great confidence booster. Make a list of the things you love about your life. Don’t let negative comments get you down. Make a list of things that you want to do in life and start to do them. Achieving your goals in life will increase your happiness and your confidence. An interesting person is an attractive one.

Be sociable, make conversation with new people and accept opportunities to develop as a person. Doing something that you find frightening successfully will boost your self-confidence and will increase your self-belief.

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11 Nov

Truth in Advertising: Honesty and Online Dating

When you enter the world on online dating, it is important to be honest with yourself and with others you may be matched up with.  If you are truly looking to have a positive experience while internet dating, you owe it to yourself and to others to be honest about who you are as a person and what you are really looking for.

Online dating is just like regular dating, except without the face-to-face contact you get offline. The consequence of this lack of direct physical contact is that many feel free to embellish their profiles, airbrush the flaws from their photos and their personalities, and generally create a dating character rather than present themselves for possible dating opportunities.

Entering into an online dating situation with someone relies solely on the contents of their profiles and the pictures they have posted, so finding out that any of these are anything less than completely true and accurate can not only destroy any chance of a good relationship emerging, but may also sabotage any trust the other person has in the online dating experience.

Being real and honest about who you are and what your expectations are lets other users know that you are serious about your activities on the site and that your intentions are good.

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5 Nov

Dating Advice: Where to Find It

When it comes to dating online and offline, most people will admit they need all the advice they can get.  Many online resources are available for dating advice, including online articles and dating blogs.

Online Articles

Dating advice articles are plentiful online and you can be sure to find numerous answers to your dating questions by performing a simple search.  Many online dating sites have sections featuring articles and how-to’s available to members and non-members alike. Some of the articles are supplied by scientists, psychologists, and other love experts, while your dating peers may also supply a wealth of articles on a variety of topics.  While not articles, many of your fellow users’ posts in the forums can also be informative and helpful.

Many freelance writing sites are a great source for articles about romance and dating in general. They are a great source for real life experiences and opinions as well as thoroughly researched topics.

Dating Blogs

If you are looking for real life experiences coloured with a dose of sarcasm and humour, try dating blogs.  Kept by an individual, a dating blog is a window into an individual’s dating life, the up and downs, the strange and spectacular. Most dating blogs are maintained on at least a weekly basis, providing new information and fresh commentary to their regular visitors.  Many offer readers the ability to comment on posts if they wish, so many dating blogs become a sort of private dating hub.

Whether you are looking for facts or fun, taking advantage of the online dating resources available is easy and always informative.

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