Dating People For Whom English is a Second Language
Irish dating sites reflect the diversity of modern Ireland. While you will find your typical boy/girl next door posting their profiles on these sites, there are also thousands of profiles posted by people who have moved to Ireland from abroad and who are interested in meeting people. In many cases, these individuals will have learned English as their second – or perhaps even third – language. While all of the normal dating rules still apply, there are a few additional things to consider when dating someone who is not a native English speaker.
The most important thing when arranging a date with someone who is not a native English speaker is to make sure that the time and place is confirmed in writing, either by text or email. If it is done verbally over the phone, the chances of a mix up are greatly increased.
Ideally, you should listen as much as possible at the start of your date. When you hear your date speak, you will quickly get a feel for how fluent they are in English, and can then adapt your own word choices accordingly. In many cases, individuals for whom English is a second language will have a limited vocabulary. It is a good idea to use a mirroring technique and do your best to adapt the words that you use to the level of English that your date is speaking.
Another important thing to do is look at your date when you are speaking to them; their facial expressions can give you a good idea whether or not that they understand what you are saying. If they don’t seem to be following you, slow down. English speakers tend to speak too quickly.
Most of all, remember not to make any cultural assumptions. Somebody from Malaysia may have grown up with English as their first language, while somebody from Germany may be really struggling to understand even a basic conversation.
